Promises with Purpose – Group Proposal

Promises with Purpose

An Ongoing Peer Coach-Facilitated Group

Facilitated by Bill
Methodology: Motivational Interviewing (M.I.)

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Program Overview

The Concept: A fellowship-neutral weekly group centered around the universal Promises of recovery. Instead of unpacking the past, this group focuses entirely on the vision, the rewards, and doing the actual work required to sustain long-term recovery.

The Structure (Open Enrollment): While the curriculum flows through the Promises sequentially, the group operates on a rolling, open-enrollment format. There is no “behind” or “catching up.” A new member can join during any given week and immediately engage with that session’s specific focus.

The TPOR Value (The Bridge): By helping group members identify exactly where they are currently blocked, this format acts as a natural funnel. It naturally encourages them to step into 1-on-1 Peer Coaching services with TPOR to get the specific support they need.

Facilitation Note: The M.I. questions outlined in this curriculum serve as a structured guide. Facilitation will remain fluid, adapting to group consensus and real-time needs as they arise.

The Strategy & Objectives

Who it serves: Individuals in recovery who are ready to transition from merely surviving to actively building their future, but need a structured, forward-looking environment to stay accountable.

What problems is this group solving: It bridges the gap between passive group attendance and active, individualized recovery. It solves the issue of group members getting “stuck” unpacking the past by forcing them to identify roadblocks and take action.

Expected outcomes: A high-retention, high-engagement weekly community that naturally funnels members who hit specific behavioral roadblocks directly into 1-on-1 Peer Coaching.

12-Month Definition of Success: 15 consistent, active weekly group participants, directly resulting in the addition of 35 new Peer Coaching clients to the TPOR roster.

Week 1: The Vision

“Amazed before you are halfway through…”

The Focus: Setting the baseline of hope and establishing what we actually want out of life now.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a hobby you had as a kid that you forgot about until recently?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you could instantly learn any musical instrument, what would it be?
M.I. Question: “If you were truly ‘amazed’ by your life six months from now, what is one specific thing that would look different than it does today?”
Follow-up: “What are the biggest internal or external obstacles standing in the way of that vision right now?”

Week 2: A New Freedom and a New Happiness

The Focus: Moving beyond just freedom *from* the past, and defining what freedom *to* live differently looks like today.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is one small, simple thing that made you smile today?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you had a free afternoon this weekend with zero obligations, what is the first thing you would do?
M.I. Question: “When you look at your life right now, where do you still feel restricted, and what is one practical step you can take this week to reclaim that space?”
Follow-up: “Once you reclaim that space, what will that freedom actually feel like, and what will you be able to do differently?”

Week 3: No Regrets, Open Doors

The Focus: Viewing past mistakes not as anchors of shame, but as assets and guard rails for the future.

  • Icebreaker 1: What’s a funny, harmless mistake you made recently that you can laugh about now?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is a skill you’ve always thought about trying but haven’t yet?
M.I. Question: “How can the exact thing you regret the most be used as a tool to help someone else in your community this week?”
Follow-up: “When you shift that regret from a source of shame to a tool for helping others, how does that change the way you view your own past?”

Week 4: Comprehending Serenity and Peace

The Focus: Treating peace as a boundary you actively set and protect, rather than a magical feeling you wait for.

  • Icebreaker 1: Where is your favorite quiet spot to just sit and breathe?
  • Icebreaker 2: What’s one song, sound, or activity that instantly helps your brain slow down?
M.I. Question: “Where is a lack of peace showing up in your daily routine, and what boundary do you need to establish to protect it?”
Follow-up: “If you successfully hold that boundary this week, how will your daily energy and focus improve?”

Week 5: Benefiting Others

The Focus: Finding purpose in the struggle by recognizing the immense value of our lived experience.

  • Icebreaker 1: Who is someone that helped you out in a surprisingly small way this week?
  • Icebreaker 2: Who is someone in your life that always knows exactly how to make you laugh?
M.I. Question: “Who in your immediate circle, or in this very building, needs your specific experience right now, and how will you show up for them?”
Follow-up: “What typically holds you back from offering that support, and how can you push past that hesitation tomorrow?”

Week 6: Banishing Uselessness and Self-Pity

The Focus: Recognizing that action and service are the ultimate antidotes to self-pity.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a chore or daily task you actually enjoy doing because it makes you feel productive?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is your go-to comfort food when you just want to treat yourself?
M.I. Question: “What is one small, tangible act of service you can execute tomorrow morning to get out of your own head?”
Follow-up: “When you actually complete that act of service, what emotion replaces the feeling of self-pity in your mind?”

Week 7: Shifting from Selfish to Fellowship

The Focus: Building a robust, active peer community that sustains long-term recovery.

  • Icebreaker 1: Who is the easiest person in your life to just hang out with while doing absolutely nothing?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is a topic you could accidentally talk about for 20 minutes straight without any preparation?
M.I. Question: “Who can you genuinely connect with this week without needing absolutely anything in return?”
Follow-up: “What does it feel like to be present with someone just for the sake of connection, rather than trying to get something out of it?”

Week 8: Self-Seeking Slips Away

The Focus: Letting go of the ego, the need to be right, and the exhaustion of trying to control everything.

  • Icebreaker 1: What’s a silly, petty argument you recently realized just wasn’t worth winning?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you could instantly be an expert in one random subject, what would it be?
M.I. Question: “Where in your life are you currently fighting to steer the ship instead of just navigating the river?”
Follow-up: “What would you actually lose if you just let go of the need to control that specific outcome today?”

Week 9: A New Attitude and Outlook

The Focus: Cultivating active gratitude versus passive thankfulness.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a food, band, or movie you used to hate but now actually enjoy?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is one tiny, everyday thing you are grateful for today?
M.I. Question: “What is a current, frustrating challenge in your life right now that you can actually find a way to be grateful for, and why?”
Follow-up: “How does finding that tiny piece of gratitude shift your ability to actually solve the problem?”

Week 10: The Turn / The Work

“If we are painstaking about this phase…”

The Focus: The promises are not a passive gift; they are the direct result of Step 9 (making amends, living differently).

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a small task you completely put off this week that actually would have only taken 5 minutes?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is one habit you’ve successfully changed in your life recently?
M.I. Question: “Looking back at the promises we’ve covered, where are you waiting for things to just ‘magically get better’ instead of doing the actual work?”
Follow-up: “What is the very first amend or behavioral change you need to make this week to kickstart that progress?”

Week 11: Losing the Fear

The Focus: The promise isn’t that we won’t face economic hardship or difficult people; the promise is that we won’t live in the *fear* of them.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a rational or irrational fear you had as a kid that you completely outgrew?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is a movie or book that completely scared you as a kid, but is hilarious to you now?
M.I. Question: “What is one fear driving your decisions right now, and what does the actual reality look like when you strip that fear away?”
Follow-up: “What is one logical, grounded step you can take today to prepare for that reality instead of just worrying about it?”

Week 12: Intuitive Handling of Baffling Situations

The Focus: Trusting your recovered brain and relying on the guard rails you’ve built.

  • Icebreaker 1: What’s a minor inconvenience that happened recently where you surprised yourself by staying completely calm?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you could have an “everyday superpower” for one daily task, what would it be?
M.I. Question: “What is a situation you used to completely overreact to, and how would the ‘calm, anchored’ version of you handle it today?”
Follow-up: “What specific tools or guard rails do you rely on now that allow you to pause before you react?”

Week 13: Recognizing the Process

The Focus: Realizing we don’t have to do the heavy lifting alone when we trust the process and our community.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a skill or game that took you a long time to learn, but the process was fun?
  • Icebreaker 2: Have you ever had a “happy accident” where a change of plans turned out to be the best part of your day?
M.I. Question: “Where are you trying to force an outcome by yourself instead of trusting the process and just doing the next right thing?”
Follow-up: “If you surrender the outcome right now, what is the literal ‘next right thing’ in front of you that you can control today?”

Week 14: The Review & The Guarantee

“They will always materialize IF…”

The Focus: Acknowledging that the promises materialize when we work for them. Identifying the next steps (1-on-1 coaching).

  • Icebreaker 1: What is one physical tool, app, or habit that makes your daily life easier right now?
  • Icebreaker 2: Looking back over the last 13 weeks, what was your favorite topic we discussed?
M.I. Question: “Which of these promises has started to materialize in your life, and which one still requires you to seek 1-on-1 support and do the actual work?”
Follow-up: “What is your specific plan for the next 30 days to continue doing the work, and how can TPOR support you in that?”

Next Steps

“Good enough for now, safe enough to try.”

I am proposing we launch this ongoing group format to build engagement and track conversions directly into TPOR 1-on-1 Peer Coaching.

Proposed Launch Slots:

  • Option A: Friday at 9:00 AM (Anchoring the weekend)
  • Option B: Wednesday at 9:00 AM (Mid-week momentum)
Are we ready to put this on the calendar?
Promises with Purpose – Group Proposal

Promises with Purpose

An Ongoing Peer Coach-Facilitated Group

Facilitated by Bill
Methodology: Motivational Interviewing (M.I.)

(Scroll down to begin)

Program Overview

The Concept: A fellowship-neutral weekly group centered around the universal Promises of recovery. Instead of unpacking the past, this group focuses entirely on the vision, the rewards, and doing the actual work required to sustain long-term recovery.

The Structure (Open Enrollment): While the curriculum flows through the Promises sequentially, the group operates on a rolling, open-enrollment format. There is no “behind” or “catching up.” A new member can join during any given week and immediately engage with that session’s specific focus.

The TPOR Value (The Bridge): By helping group members identify exactly where they are currently blocked, this format acts as a natural funnel. It naturally encourages them to step into 1-on-1 Peer Coaching services with TPOR to get the specific support they need.

Facilitation Note: The M.I. questions outlined in this curriculum serve as a structured guide. Facilitation will remain fluid, adapting to group consensus and real-time needs as they arise.

The Strategy & Objectives

Who it serves: Individuals in recovery who are ready to transition from merely surviving to actively building their future, but need a structured, forward-looking environment to stay accountable.

What problems is this group solving: It bridges the gap between passive group attendance and active, individualized recovery. It solves the issue of group members getting “stuck” unpacking the past by forcing them to identify roadblocks and take action.

Expected outcomes: A high-retention, high-engagement weekly community that naturally funnels members who hit specific behavioral roadblocks directly into 1-on-1 Peer Coaching.

12-Month Definition of Success: 15 consistent, active weekly group participants, directly resulting in the addition of 35 new Peer Coaching clients to the TPOR roster.

Week 1: The Vision

“Amazed before you are halfway through…”

The Focus: Setting the baseline of hope and establishing what we actually want out of life now.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a hobby you had as a kid that you forgot about until recently?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you could instantly learn any musical instrument, what would it be?
M.I. Question: “If you were truly ‘amazed’ by your life six months from now, what is one specific thing that would look different than it does today?”
Follow-up: “What are the biggest internal or external obstacles standing in the way of that vision right now?”

Week 2: A New Freedom and a New Happiness

The Focus: Moving beyond just freedom *from* the past, and defining what freedom *to* live differently looks like today.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is one small, simple thing that made you smile today?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you had a free afternoon this weekend with zero obligations, what is the first thing you would do?
M.I. Question: “When you look at your life right now, where do you still feel restricted, and what is one practical step you can take this week to reclaim that space?”
Follow-up: “Once you reclaim that space, what will that freedom actually feel like, and what will you be able to do differently?”

Week 3: No Regrets, Open Doors

The Focus: Viewing past mistakes not as anchors of shame, but as assets and guard rails for the future.

  • Icebreaker 1: What’s a funny, harmless mistake you made recently that you can laugh about now?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is a skill you’ve always thought about trying but haven’t yet?
M.I. Question: “How can the exact thing you regret the most be used as a tool to help someone else in your community this week?”
Follow-up: “When you shift that regret from a source of shame to a tool for helping others, how does that change the way you view your own past?”

Week 4: Comprehending Serenity and Peace

The Focus: Treating peace as a boundary you actively set and protect, rather than a magical feeling you wait for.

  • Icebreaker 1: Where is your favorite quiet spot to just sit and breathe?
  • Icebreaker 2: What’s one song, sound, or activity that instantly helps your brain slow down?
M.I. Question: “Where is a lack of peace showing up in your daily routine, and what boundary do you need to establish to protect it?”
Follow-up: “If you successfully hold that boundary this week, how will your daily energy and focus improve?”

Week 5: Benefiting Others

The Focus: Finding purpose in the struggle by recognizing the immense value of our lived experience.

  • Icebreaker 1: Who is someone that helped you out in a surprisingly small way this week?
  • Icebreaker 2: Who is someone in your life that always knows exactly how to make you laugh?
M.I. Question: “Who in your immediate circle, or in this very building, needs your specific experience right now, and how will you show up for them?”
Follow-up: “What typically holds you back from offering that support, and how can you push past that hesitation tomorrow?”

Week 6: Banishing Uselessness and Self-Pity

The Focus: Recognizing that action and service are the ultimate antidotes to self-pity.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a chore or daily task you actually enjoy doing because it makes you feel productive?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is your go-to comfort food when you just want to treat yourself?
M.I. Question: “What is one small, tangible act of service you can execute tomorrow morning to get out of your own head?”
Follow-up: “When you actually complete that act of service, what emotion replaces the feeling of self-pity in your mind?”

Week 7: Shifting from Selfish to Fellowship

The Focus: Building a robust, active peer community that sustains long-term recovery.

  • Icebreaker 1: Who is the easiest person in your life to just hang out with while doing absolutely nothing?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is a topic you could accidentally talk about for 20 minutes straight without any preparation?
M.I. Question: “Who can you genuinely connect with this week without needing absolutely anything in return?”
Follow-up: “What does it feel like to be present with someone just for the sake of connection, rather than trying to get something out of it?”

Week 8: Self-Seeking Slips Away

The Focus: Letting go of the ego, the need to be right, and the exhaustion of trying to control everything.

  • Icebreaker 1: What’s a silly, petty argument you recently realized just wasn’t worth winning?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you could instantly be an expert in one random subject, what would it be?
M.I. Question: “Where in your life are you currently fighting to steer the ship instead of just navigating the river?”
Follow-up: “What would you actually lose if you just let go of the need to control that specific outcome today?”

Week 9: A New Attitude and Outlook

The Focus: Cultivating active gratitude versus passive thankfulness.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a food, band, or movie you used to hate but now actually enjoy?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is one tiny, everyday thing you are grateful for today?
M.I. Question: “What is a current, frustrating challenge in your life right now that you can actually find a way to be grateful for, and why?”
Follow-up: “How does finding that tiny piece of gratitude shift your ability to actually solve the problem?”

Week 10: The Turn / The Work

“If we are painstaking about this phase…”

The Focus: The promises are not a passive gift; they are the direct result of Step 9 (making amends, living differently).

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a small task you completely put off this week that actually would have only taken 5 minutes?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is one habit you’ve successfully changed in your life recently?
M.I. Question: “Looking back at the promises we’ve covered, where are you waiting for things to just ‘magically get better’ instead of doing the actual work?”
Follow-up: “What is the very first amend or behavioral change you need to make this week to kickstart that progress?”

Week 11: Losing the Fear

The Focus: The promise isn’t that we won’t face economic hardship or difficult people; the promise is that we won’t live in the *fear* of them.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a rational or irrational fear you had as a kid that you completely outgrew?
  • Icebreaker 2: What is a movie or book that completely scared you as a kid, but is hilarious to you now?
M.I. Question: “What is one fear driving your decisions right now, and what does the actual reality look like when you strip that fear away?”
Follow-up: “What is one logical, grounded step you can take today to prepare for that reality instead of just worrying about it?”

Week 12: Intuitive Handling of Baffling Situations

The Focus: Trusting your recovered brain and relying on the guard rails you’ve built.

  • Icebreaker 1: What’s a minor inconvenience that happened recently where you surprised yourself by staying completely calm?
  • Icebreaker 2: If you could have an “everyday superpower” for one daily task, what would it be?
M.I. Question: “What is a situation you used to completely overreact to, and how would the ‘calm, anchored’ version of you handle it today?”
Follow-up: “What specific tools or guard rails do you rely on now that allow you to pause before you react?”

Week 13: Recognizing the Process

The Focus: Realizing we don’t have to do the heavy lifting alone when we trust the process and our community.

  • Icebreaker 1: What is a skill or game that took you a long time to learn, but the process was fun?
  • Icebreaker 2: Have you ever had a “happy accident” where a change of plans turned out to be the best part of your day?
M.I. Question: “Where are you trying to force an outcome by yourself instead of trusting the process and just doing the next right thing?”
Follow-up: “If you surrender the outcome right now, what is the literal ‘next right thing’ in front of you that you can control today?”

Week 14: The Review & The Guarantee

“They will always materialize IF…”

The Focus: Acknowledging that the promises materialize when we work for them. Identifying the next steps (1-on-1 coaching).

  • Icebreaker 1: What is one physical tool, app, or habit that makes your daily life easier right now?
  • Icebreaker 2: Looking back over the last 13 weeks, what was your favorite topic we discussed?
M.I. Question: “Which of these promises has started to materialize in your life, and which one still requires you to seek 1-on-1 support and do the actual work?”
Follow-up: “What is your specific plan for the next 30 days to continue doing the work, and how can TPOR support you in that?”

Next Steps

“Good enough for now, safe enough to try.”

I am proposing we launch this ongoing group format to build engagement and track conversions directly into TPOR 1-on-1 Peer Coaching.

Proposed Launch Slots:

  • Option A: Friday at 9:00 AM (Anchoring the weekend)
  • Option B: Wednesday at 9:00 AM (Mid-week momentum)
Are we ready to put this on the calendar?

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